What does the Lord your God require of you? He requires only that you fear the Lord your God, and live in a way that pleases him, and love him and serve him with all your heart and soul. And you must always obey the Lord’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good. Deuteronomy 10:12-13 (NLT)
As I watch my little grandson grow and assert his will into the mix of his life, I realize there are going to be times when he will need to obey what his parents or I (or anyone that is caring for him) says. Even if he doesn't want to. As he gets older, he is going to ask "Why must I obey?" Our answer? "Because we love you so very much, we know what will be best for you." We can't expect a child of one or two or sometimes even 16 to know everything about life. We then impose our will on them so they are safe and are making the best choice for their life and more importantly, for their future.
It is the same with God. He asks us to obey him. Not because of some arbitrary rule he's imposed but because he loves us so very much and wants the best for our life and our future. When we rebel against obeying (knowing the request is made in love), we don't have an obedience problem, we have a love problem. Our relationship with God is not in the right place. God will never, ever, ever offer us second best. He can't. It is not in his nature to do so. Trust him. It's the difference between a good life and the best life.
God is love. 1 John 4:16 (NLT)